Hello 
I came here because I?ve been receiving The Daily Love emails and they are always inspiring. I wanted to share my story because I simply am just incredibly confused right now, and I?d like advice on how to approach and think about this situation coming from a place of love. Here we go.
My boyfriend of 1.5 years is slowly recovering from cancer. Going through treatment was difficult on him, me, and our relationship. We have been friends for about 6 years and had a relationship in the past, but maintained the friendship until we found each other single again. We are incredibly attracted to each other and get along really well, we simply enjoy one another?s company. A few weeks ago, he came to me confused, depressed and upset, saying that he needed a break from our relationship. We spent the entire night crying and talking together, about cancer, our relationship, missed opportunities. He is struggling with a huge amount of depression and just isn?t sure where he will be when he comes out the other end. He cares for me but he doesn?t want me to go through this. It?s not you, it?s me.
After that night, we seemed to have reconnected again and are not talking much over the phone, but have been texting and have been seeing each other once a week, which typically turns into sex. It has now been a month and I?m not sure what to do. Our relationship isn?t what it was, I?m craving for him to call me, to want to see me more often. It is very hard for me to have this connection with someone but to be held at a distance. We are both very busy ? him with two jobs and health issues and me with two jobs and grad school. I try to make space for him in my life but I?m not sure he can focus on a relationship right now.
Today I told him that we can last through the holidays like this (one month) but then we really need to make a decision about our relationship, that I am feeling insecure with the way things are right now.
I want to be with him, he is the love of my life, but I don?t know if he can be with me. I?ve been maintaining this thinking that he is going through a life changing situation (cancer) and that I need to stick by and hold the space for him. But it?s hard, and I am not sure if he will one day reject me again or push me away.
What to do? How do I handle this?
Any & all advice welcome.
Thanks!
A TDL Reader
Source: http://thedailylove.com/daily-share-how-do-i-handle-this-relationship/
festivus festivus nfl playoff picture nfl playoff picture happy holidays santa tracker russell wilson
কোন মন্তব্য নেই:
একটি মন্তব্য পোস্ট করুন